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Getting up the courage to approach Black women

A beautiful Black woman

“I’m one of those White guys that stares and smiles at Black girls/women like you. Why don’t (some of us, at least) get up the courage to approach girls/women like you? I suspect that it has something to do with the fact that while we may be attracted to Black girls/women, while we may, indeed, have African American coworkers that we’re on good terms with and while we more than likely daily interact with other Black folk in a variety of other settings, we don’t actually have any African American friends. And in not having those friends, we’re, well, uncertain as to how to approach someone from that group. Afraid, perhaps, that we might say or do something that somehow comes across as stereotyping in nature or otherwise insensitive. Afraid, too, perhaps of being too White (whatever that might be). Those are my ideas, at least. And something that I definitely need to work on, because, quite frankly, I find most of the Black women that I meet these days far more attractive than any others. Enough of my babble…”

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The fear of rejection

A beautiful Black woman out on a date with a handsome White man

“I am White and think Black women are very attractive. Many White guys find Black women sexy. White guys don’t like to feel rejected so they don’t approach a Black lady for fear of rejection. Let a White Guy know you are comfortable around him and are ok with him being White and he will want to date you.”

I am a White guy who loves Black women

A beautiful & elegant Black woman

“I am a White guy who loves Black women.
On the personality level I think Black women are emotionally strong and assertive. They know how to flirt and have fun without being trashy. I have the feeling if a guy has the love of a Black women, she would have his back and would help him be a better man. I think Black women make good mothers, and can be tough when they need to be.
On the physical level I think Black women are absolutely beautiful and truly in a league of their own. Black women are voluptuous, have beautiful faces and smooth skin. They have the best smiles. I think they are comfortable with their bodies and are not afraid to show off their curves. Even older Black women look ageless and youthful. Black women look good even without makeup.
I like the way Black women dress, especially for church, weddings, or special occasions. They look so sexy and elegant.
I think other people get jealous of Black women and put them down.
I think Black women should know there are lots of well-intentioned White men out there looking for dating and marriage.”

 

 

Treat them as women

A beautiful Black woman with a flower in her hair

“As a European myself, I think we don’t obsess about race in the manner American White men do; if we see a sexy Black women, we view her more in terms of sexy than necessarily Black. Similarly, I’ve also noticed that African-American women are more suspicious of dating White men than Caribbean or African women, primarily due to this fixation on race. Yet as others have noted, when we European men chat with African-American women about things in general rather than focusing on race, the ice breaks. Needless to add, I’ve also been surpirsed by how many Black ladies like blonds, at least here in NYC; it seems that you need only treat them as women, instead of some exotic sex toy.”

OUR HAPPINESS TOGETHER IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS!

A beautiful Black woman being embraced by a handsome White man

“This is where it should come down to the old rule most of us were taught but apparently forgot…it’s called, “Mind your own business!” The fact that my relationship is with a Black Woman is NO ONEs business but ours….Not societies, Not the Black Race, Not the White Race, and NOT the governments. It’s ours…our choice! I’ve read eveything here today from, The White race wants the Black race to lighten up and let them in…the Black woman was called a sellout from the Black man because she dated only White men…and oh by the way..that same Black man was married to a White women. If you choose to date/marry only in your race ….GREAT…if you choose to date/marry outside your race…GREAT. BE happy…I will be happy for you……give me the same please. Don’t judge either of us …….I promise you, neither of us will ever judge you….we don’t care what you, society or anyone else thinks. OURS HAPPINESS TOGETHER IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS! Have a nice life everyone!”

Nobody seems to have a problem with it

BW WM interracial couple

“Funny I’m from Mississippi and I date Black women and nobody in my community seems to have a problem with it.”

Black women make yourself happy and follow your heart and dreams

Black women follow your heart and dreams

“I am a White guy, and I agree with Roberts comment. The Black guys that spew hate and try so hard to convince Black women (especially Black women with a darker complexion), that no one wants them just have an alterior motive. Half of those guys probably don’t even have jobs which is why they have so much time on their hands to make You Tube videos and post hate filled messages. They are against White men dating Black women, but when it comes to Black men dating White women they are quiet and they don’t have anything to say. These men would rather see an educated attractive Black woman grow old by herself and die alone. Women wake up. This type of Black men just wants a successful Black women around to pay his bills whe he sits around and does nothing. You as a person have to look out for yourself first and not care about what anyone else thinks. Make yourself happy and follow your heart and dreams. In this day and age I don’t understand why people (especially Black men) get so worked up over Black women dating White men. I think Black women are beautiful. My wife (who I have been happily married to for 9 years) is a beautiful dark complected Black woman. She is my world and she uplifts, loves, and encourages me in a way that no other woman I dated in the past could come close to. Love is love, and there are more important things in life than worrying about who complete strangers are dating.”