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Haters, Saboteurs, and Cock Blockers Part Deux

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@Allie8_79  “…some Black men’s strategy is to talk Black women down to their non-Black friends and generally discourage IRR between BW and non-BM so that they can keep BW for themselves all the while dating out for as long as they can…”
“Oh yeah. There was a young Black woman I liked during high school [mid-70s], and I was good friends with her [male] cousin. I figured, “hey he can put in a good word for me, ensure her folks that I am a straight up guy and come from a good family, etc” As I learned much later, what a mistake. He told me that “she’s just that friendly with everyone so don’t read too much into that. And, I know she’s only interested in Black men because she told me.” What he said was pretty convincing, so I moved on. Fast forward three decades, and at a reunion…the first time we had seen each other since high school. We picked up like it was yesterday. We both wanted to talk about how we felt about each other. I told her how I had felt about her, and she asked why I didn’t pursue her. I told her what her cousin had told me. She was really mad at her cousin [who had died 2 years  earlier], because none of what he told me was true. She said even her dad [no-nonsense US Navy man] liked me, which would have been half the battle. Since we were both there with our spouses, we couldn’t just run out of there, but we thought about it (LOL j/k) I did get to meet her husband, a really nice Cuban guy. So at least she did all right in the relationship department [and he’s probably a better dancer than me too!]”

Asian men are attracted to Black women

A beautiful Black woman

“As some troll stated, run and tell this: Asian men are attracted to Black women and it’s time you and other sad trolls understood and accepted that.”

I didn’t realize what I had been missing until I met her

A gorgeous Black woman

“I’m a male Mexican from San Antonio Texas which is predominantly Mexican. I was married a Mexican woman for 15 years. We separated and got a divorce 3 years ago. When I started dating, I decided I wanted to experience and date out of my race, so I dated Asian, Middle Eastern, White, Caribbean, and other Latin woman. I love all woman, but the last person I dated was a Black female. It wasn’t because she was my last choice, it just happened that way. Well let’s put it this way, I didn’t realize what I had been missing until I met her, I am in love and plan on asking her to marry me very soon, as she can’t wait for me to ask her and can’t wait to make beautiful children. I live in Northern VA/ DC area and I notice the looks but it doesn’t bother me. We get along great and took her down to San Antonio and my family liked her, and for those that live down there that can be very difficult. I don’t see or haven’t seen a lot of Latin men with Black woman, but I will tell you she was my first and I love me some Black women. Just for the record I consider myself good looking and I have no problem attracting woman especially my own kind and I do get flirted with on purpose when I’m with her by both Black woman and Latin woman, it’s crazy it’s like a competition. Latin woman look at it like oh what does she have that I don’t, and a Black woman is like ohhhh he likes Black woman let me show him some more… But I love my woman She does her thing!”

Will they actually consider marrying a Hispanic man?

A beautiful Black bride on her wedding day

“I am a Hispanic guy who is very attracted to Black women, but my question is do Black women just like to “play” or will they actually consider marrying a Hispanic man?”

You both have to be strong and know your own identity

A beautiful Black woman with a beautiful smile

“So true. I am a Chinese man and my girlfriend is Black. We have been going out for a few years and we have a great time together and we really care about each other. You are so right about the racial issues. Even on just our FIRST date I got some serious heckling (right to my face) by Black men and strange looks from Asian women just because I was with a Black woman. This continues to this day, but now I know what to expect and how to respond to it.
You both have to be strong and know your own identity. It will be tested, and then tested again. Society is more comfortable with Black men dating Asian women than Asian men dating Black women. It is just part of the world we live in and it will apply that pressure to you both. The two cultures are seemingly so far apart that you may have to try harder to fight the racial and cultural preconceptions about not only being a minority yourself, but also being a seldom seen gender/minority mix TOGETHER.
Any issues you face you will have to deal with together. Sticking together and sticking to your guns is the only way to respond the variety of cultural barrage and questions people WILL ask.
Do what makes you happy and do not pay them any mind. If you’re good, you’re good. Black women can be strong, confident, and oh so sexy.
Be strong, be yourself, and enjoy!”

OUR HAPPINESS TOGETHER IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS!

A beautiful Black woman being embraced by a handsome White man

“This is where it should come down to the old rule most of us were taught but apparently forgot…it’s called, “Mind your own business!” The fact that my relationship is with a Black Woman is NO ONEs business but ours….Not societies, Not the Black Race, Not the White Race, and NOT the governments. It’s ours…our choice! I’ve read eveything here today from, The White race wants the Black race to lighten up and let them in…the Black woman was called a sellout from the Black man because she dated only White men…and oh by the way..that same Black man was married to a White women. If you choose to date/marry only in your race ….GREAT…if you choose to date/marry outside your race…GREAT. BE happy…I will be happy for you……give me the same please. Don’t judge either of us …….I promise you, neither of us will ever judge you….we don’t care what you, society or anyone else thinks. OURS HAPPINESS TOGETHER IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS! Have a nice life everyone!”

Black women make yourself happy and follow your heart and dreams

Black women follow your heart and dreams

“I am a White guy, and I agree with Roberts comment. The Black guys that spew hate and try so hard to convince Black women (especially Black women with a darker complexion), that no one wants them just have an alterior motive. Half of those guys probably don’t even have jobs which is why they have so much time on their hands to make You Tube videos and post hate filled messages. They are against White men dating Black women, but when it comes to Black men dating White women they are quiet and they don’t have anything to say. These men would rather see an educated attractive Black woman grow old by herself and die alone. Women wake up. This type of Black men just wants a successful Black women around to pay his bills whe he sits around and does nothing. You as a person have to look out for yourself first and not care about what anyone else thinks. Make yourself happy and follow your heart and dreams. In this day and age I don’t understand why people (especially Black men) get so worked up over Black women dating White men. I think Black women are beautiful. My wife (who I have been happily married to for 9 years) is a beautiful dark complected Black woman. She is my world and she uplifts, loves, and encourages me in a way that no other woman I dated in the past could come close to. Love is love, and there are more important things in life than worrying about who complete strangers are dating.”