Tag Archive | culture

You both have to be strong and know your own identity

A beautiful Black woman with a beautiful smile

“So true. I am a Chinese man and my girlfriend is Black. We have been going out for a few years and we have a great time together and we really care about each other. You are so right about the racial issues. Even on just our FIRST date I got some serious heckling (right to my face) by Black men and strange looks from Asian women just because I was with a Black woman. This continues to this day, but now I know what to expect and how to respond to it.
You both have to be strong and know your own identity. It will be tested, and then tested again. Society is more comfortable with Black men dating Asian women than Asian men dating Black women. It is just part of the world we live in and it will apply that pressure to you both. The two cultures are seemingly so far apart that you may have to try harder to fight the racial and cultural preconceptions about not only being a minority yourself, but also being a seldom seen gender/minority mix TOGETHER.
Any issues you face you will have to deal with together. Sticking together and sticking to your guns is the only way to respond the variety of cultural barrage and questions people WILL ask.
Do what makes you happy and do not pay them any mind. If you’re good, you’re good. Black women can be strong, confident, and oh so sexy.
Be strong, be yourself, and enjoy!”

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Born one generation too late

A beautiful Black woman deep in thought

“I’m an Asian American male. I dated an African American female. She was perfection! I screwed it up. I can’t really blame my folks, who resisted, because they are first generation and they still have trouble with english. But it’s also a matter of cultural resonance. African Americans are more comfortable in their own skin, Asians are less so due to their confucian training…it can be intimidating. I love Black women, as gorgeous and intelligent as anyone. We were born one generation too late!”

I’m still going for what I want

A White man Black woman interracial couple

“I’m a European, from a pretty mono-racial society. Came to the States and found myself especially attracted to Black ladies. Initially I was pretty ignorant about all the controversies even though I thought I knew the history… That blissful ignorance is long gone. 🙂 Being much more aware now I’m still going for what I want. Don’t care what anybody says and I’m ready to stand up for myself (and her) when challenged. Peace to you all and respect to all who run after what they want whatever the obstacles!”

Me dating or marrying a Black woman is not bringing dishonor to the family

A gorgeous Black woman

“I’m an Asian man and I love Black women. I LOVE THEM!!! Asian men need to stop being cowards and start dating these beauties. I married my Black girlfriend. My wife is the best thing thats ever happened to me. We had alot of oppositions and issues from my side of the family. Mostly my mom and sisters…BTW both of my sisters are in interracial relationships. One with a White guy and the other with a Black one. Ain’t that some bullshit?! Asian families need to let their sons grow up and be men. Let them live THEIR lives. It’s MY choice. Me dating or marrying a Black woman is not bringing dishonor to the family. You being a hypocrite and a racist is.”