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Getting up the courage to approach Black women

A beautiful Black woman

“I’m one of those White guys that stares and smiles at Black girls/women like you. Why don’t (some of us, at least) get up the courage to approach girls/women like you? I suspect that it has something to do with the fact that while we may be attracted to Black girls/women, while we may, indeed, have African American coworkers that we’re on good terms with and while we more than likely daily interact with other Black folk in a variety of other settings, we don’t actually have any African American friends. And in not having those friends, we’re, well, uncertain as to how to approach someone from that group. Afraid, perhaps, that we might say or do something that somehow comes across as stereotyping in nature or otherwise insensitive. Afraid, too, perhaps of being too White (whatever that might be). Those are my ideas, at least. And something that I definitely need to work on, because, quite frankly, I find most of the Black women that I meet these days far more attractive than any others. Enough of my babble…”

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I noticed her looking at me and smiling

A beautiful smiling Black woman

“I met my wife (Blackgirl) because I noticed her looking at me and smiling. But I wouldn’t have had the courage to go out and target a Blackgirls. Why? My experience is, I have been caught looking at Blackgirls (Because I love them) and they’ve squeezed their lips in disapproval.”