Archive | 10/24/2014

Even though I admired Black women, I was afraid to approach one

mired by a White man

“I love Black women, I always have since I was a little boy. I never dated out my race till 2008, I was always told to stick with my own. I grew up hearing bad things about Black women. Even though I admired Black women, I was afraid to approach one because of what I grew up hearing. I have been asked by fellow White men, how do you approach a Black woman. Well it is easy, just approach one. It’s either yay or nay.”

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If a guy takes the time to get to know you

BWWM interracial couple dating

“I agree v much with Dean. Most White guys are not aggressive in the dating world, and do very much try to be proper and respectful. Compliments are hard to express sometimes…just because we don’t say you are gorgeous, doesn’t mean we don’t think it…and we fear the repercussion of appearing to look at Black women only as sex objects. We need a sign, like Dean said. A longer look and a smile go a long way…for all we know, you have no interest in White men. Do have faith, young lady, that there are good..and good looking White men out there who are attracted very much to women of color. I met my lovely chocolate lady at work…we struck up a friendship…and when I asked her if she’d ever date a White guy, she told me she did before and he was the best boyfriend ever. Long story short, when I eventually asked her if she’d ever consider dating ME, she was completely floored…she had no idea I actually was attracted to her. Moral, if a guy takes the time to get to know you and you enjoy each others company…he may be attracted to you and just doesn’t know how to approach you. I’m confident you will find your vanilla man.”